Showing posts with label judges. Show all posts
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Friday, February 6, 2015
Hey, Competitions, We Have Something to Say!
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10:07 AM
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Labels: Competition, Dance Dads, Dance Moms, dancecompetitionhub, judges, Studio
Labels: Competition, Dance Dads, Dance Moms, dancecompetitionhub, judges, Studio

The other day, I read an article from Dance Studio Life magazine. It's a few years old, but I still thought it was an insightful read. It got me thinking though, about all of the things I'd like to tell THEM, the competition directors. I am, after all, the customer. Sure, the studio owner chooses the competitions, the kids perform, but I am the one paying for the service. They should know what I think too, right? Of course, I wanted to make sure I hadn't left anything out and I wanted to include everyone - so I asked the Twitter-verse what they thought: teachers, parents, dancers.
We were all mostly on the same page. But here's what we generally want to be able to let the competitions we attend know:
Pricing: Please stop sheltering the studios. Many studios add an upcharge to their fees and as long as the parents were told ahead of time, that's ok. But, as mentioned above, we are the ones paying the fees and we feel like we have the right to know what they actually are.
Schedules: When you sell out months in advance or your cut off for submissions is 30-60 days before the competition date, why on earth can you not give us a schedule sooner than 6-7 days prior? This is especially inconvenient for those of us that travel to competitions, have to take time off of work for Friday (or earlier) starts, etc. Especially frustrating is when you won't put a nationals schedule out until a week prior. We understand that there's way more that goes into creating a schedule than we realize, but a skeleton would go a long way to keep us happy.
Rules: The only rule I see being routinely enforced is no photos/videos. While I understand the safety of the dancers, protecting choreography angle, I really feel like that one is enforced because you lose money if people don't buy YOUR videos and pictures. The rules I want to see enforced are those related to the appropriateness of the routine - no 7 year olds dressed like and dancing to a song about prostitutes. Other rules are more specifically addressed in other points.
Awards: The overwhelming consensus (and you all talked about this a lot in the article) is that they are out of hand. A gold is the best award at one competition and the worst at the next. Then another has a triple platinum. Another has a titanium award. And it's been a LONG time since I've seen a silver given out. Can't we just agree on one awards system?
Levels: If a dancer can execute a perfect triple into a tilt drop, they're not novice. You know it. They know it. Their teacher knows it. Stop rewarding them with the diamond ruby sparkle award and a 1st place. Move them into the appropriate competitive category, like your rules say you'll do. The same applies to an intermediate dancer who is in 15 numbers. If they can rehearse 15 numbers in 6 hours or less, I have a bridge to sell you.
Overbooking: Please stop starting regional competitions on a Wednesday or Thursday. School should come first. Book a 2nd weekend if you have to. Or open a second room. But if you do that, please make sure that the 2nd stage is as of the same quality and safety as the main one. I'm not calling anyone out, but one I attended last year with two rooms was a nightmare.
Social Media: DO IT. Answer questions. Respond to complaints. Retweet nice things we say about you. And post. Don't just throw up a Facebook page and let it gather cobwebs.
Information: We've not returned to competitions more than once because of lack of information or misinformation. Make sure that whomever is speaking for your company knows what they are talking about. And most importantly, return the studios' phone calls and emails. Even the small studios. Again, not naming names... On the reverse, one of our favorite places to go is one where the director is open and communicative with our studio owners.
Judging: Don't ignore the smaller studios. Please make the critiques useful. We know the costume is pretty. Work a lunch break into the schedule if you have to. But it would be great to get critiques that don't feature the judge chewing into the microphone. And hold your judges accountable for giving everyone a critique. One year, I sat and watched a judge enter a score after about 15 seconds for every single novice and intermediate number. He only watched the advanced numbers. All. Day. Long.
Of course, we don't know if any of them will read this post. So, the best thing you can do is offer your feedback on Dance Competition Hub. Competition owners and vendors are taking notice and reading our feedback, so keep posting it!
Wednesday, November 20, 2013
19 Stages of Watching a Dance Competition
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Labels: Competition, Crazy, dancecompetitionhub, DanceDads, DanceMoms, DreamDuffel, judges, rules
Labels: Competition, Crazy, dancecompetitionhub, DanceDads, DanceMoms, DreamDuffel, judges, rules

Stages of Watching a Dance Competition
1. You get up early. Like... let’s see the sunrise together early. Except that you can’t enjoy the sunrise because...
2. You spend twenty minutes in a panic because you can’t find the bottom to the first costume of the day only to realize that the last time she wore it, she had a quick change and it got shoved into the bottom of the Dream Duffel.
3. You spend the next twenty minutes trying wash off the superglue-esque paste that a combination of hair gel, hairspray, and eyelash glue have created on your fingers.
4. Then you have to go back to the car because you didn’t put the spare tights in the Dream Duffel and the first pair your child put on ripped.
5. You drape your dancer in an oversized sweatshirt so that she can eat some hotel waffles for breakfast without getting syrup on her costume.
6. You run out the door and race to the venue, only to find that there’s road construction/a parade/a road race blocking all known routes to the place.
7. After finding a parking spot far enough away to count as your cardio for the day, you enter the building to be greeted with the news that they’re running an hour ahead--even though the competition started 30 minutes ago.
8. You hand off your dancer to the teachers, only after asking a minimum of 17 times if she’s stretched. And then you go to find a seat...
9. And discover that some parents must have camped out overnight like it was a Best Buy Black Friday sale because there’s nowhere to sit.
10. You insist that you’re going to watch all of the numbers leading up to your studio’s performance and seven minutes later find yourself finally beating level 141 of Candy Crush.
11. You start making notes in your program to add to Dance Competition Hub when you get home.
12. At around hour 7, you begin to question your involvement in this and begin pondering the vacations you could be taking with the money you spend on dance competitions.
13. Then awards happen and your child scores a platinum on her solo and you start mentally packing for the next competition.
14. You promise to stay and watch all of the studio’s numbers and then your Starbucks app sends a notification of half price drinks.
15. You sneak back into the auditorium with your coffee, conveniently ignoring the “no food or drink allowed” sign, only to find that the seat in front of yours has been taken up by three dancers who insist on sitting on each other’s laps and giggling loudly while taking group selfies on their phones.
16. You begin plotting the murder of the parent who is too cheap to buy her own program and keeps texting you every 10 minutes to ask “what number are they on?”
17. You try (and fail) to hide rolling your eyes at the parent who insists her precious little snowflake did not win because “the judges hate her.” (While mentally noting that she placed second.)
18. As 10 pm awards approach and you've had nothing but coffee and a half a stale pretzel, you begin to wonder how long it took for the Donner party to turn on each other.
19. You return to your hotel room and set your alarm so that you can repeat steps 1-17 tomorrow.
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1. You get up early. Like... let’s see the sunrise together early. Except that you can’t enjoy the sunrise because...
2. You spend twenty minutes in a panic because you can’t find the bottom to the first costume of the day only to realize that the last time she wore it, she had a quick change and it got shoved into the bottom of the Dream Duffel.
3. You spend the next twenty minutes trying wash off the superglue-esque paste that a combination of hair gel, hairspray, and eyelash glue have created on your fingers.
4. Then you have to go back to the car because you didn’t put the spare tights in the Dream Duffel and the first pair your child put on ripped.
5. You drape your dancer in an oversized sweatshirt so that she can eat some hotel waffles for breakfast without getting syrup on her costume.
6. You run out the door and race to the venue, only to find that there’s road construction/a parade/a road race blocking all known routes to the place.
7. After finding a parking spot far enough away to count as your cardio for the day, you enter the building to be greeted with the news that they’re running an hour ahead--even though the competition started 30 minutes ago.
8. You hand off your dancer to the teachers, only after asking a minimum of 17 times if she’s stretched. And then you go to find a seat...
9. And discover that some parents must have camped out overnight like it was a Best Buy Black Friday sale because there’s nowhere to sit.
10. You insist that you’re going to watch all of the numbers leading up to your studio’s performance and seven minutes later find yourself finally beating level 141 of Candy Crush.
11. You start making notes in your program to add to Dance Competition Hub when you get home.
12. At around hour 7, you begin to question your involvement in this and begin pondering the vacations you could be taking with the money you spend on dance competitions.
13. Then awards happen and your child scores a platinum on her solo and you start mentally packing for the next competition.
14. You promise to stay and watch all of the studio’s numbers and then your Starbucks app sends a notification of half price drinks.
15. You sneak back into the auditorium with your coffee, conveniently ignoring the “no food or drink allowed” sign, only to find that the seat in front of yours has been taken up by three dancers who insist on sitting on each other’s laps and giggling loudly while taking group selfies on their phones.
16. You begin plotting the murder of the parent who is too cheap to buy her own program and keeps texting you every 10 minutes to ask “what number are they on?”
17. You try (and fail) to hide rolling your eyes at the parent who insists her precious little snowflake did not win because “the judges hate her.” (While mentally noting that she placed second.)
18. As 10 pm awards approach and you've had nothing but coffee and a half a stale pretzel, you begin to wonder how long it took for the Donner party to turn on each other.
19. You return to your hotel room and set your alarm so that you can repeat steps 1-17 tomorrow.
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Wednesday, October 16, 2013
Confessions of a Dance Mom
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12:27 PM
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Labels: choreographers, Competition, Crazy, judges, recital, Studio
Labels: choreographers, Competition, Crazy, judges, recital, Studio

If you follow me on Twitter (and if you don't, what are you waiting for?) you'll know that I make fun of...well, everyone. A lot. I make fun of the crazy mom who is obsessed with her child's "career", the parent who never, ever has any idea what's going on. Ever. I mock the parent who insists on interrupting class at least once a week to fix her child's skirt. I make fun of dancers and choreographers and judges and parents and costume designers...everyone is fair game. I mean, the account IS anonymous - and I believe the appeal is that these people are in EVERY studio. Everyone has a parent who mentions their child's name so many times a day that you start to keep tally marks and place bets with the other parents on how many times she'll say it. Every studio has a parent who thinks their child is going to be a superstar. There's always a super competitive parent that you're worried may turn into the Texas Cheerleader Mom. And all of these people are also in all of us. So, without further ado: Dance Mom Confessions from me, Dance Parent Problems.
- I've thrown shoes.
- I've threatened to glue my child's eyes shut with eyelash glue.
- I've taken cell phone pictures of costumes in the hallways to get ideas for later.
- I've brought food AND drink into the auditorium.
- I showed up for my child's very first competition without bobby pins.
- I've been known to sleep between our studio's numbers while at competitions.
- I pack for the first competition at least two weeks early. (I've come a long way since the "no bobby pins" incident.)
- I've yelled at someone else's child. More than once. (Watch your damned kids. This isn't a daycare.)
- I've saved seats.
- I drive my child absolutely nuts before she does her solo. "Did you stretch? Are you sure you're stretched? Why aren't you stretching?"
I'm sure there's more. LOTS more. We all do crazy things. That's part of being a dance mom (or dad.) The important thing is that we learn to laugh about it and not take ourselves so seriously. All of this will be over long before any of us are ready and some day we'll be sitting around longing for the days of spending a week's paycheck on costumes.
Sunday, September 22, 2013
Dance Parents Have to Stick Together!
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7:18 PM
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Labels: Competition, CrazyParents, dancecompetitionhub, judges, rules, Studio
Labels: Competition, CrazyParents, dancecompetitionhub, judges, rules, Studio

There are CRAZY dance moms out there! We have to stick together! We're not the crazy ones, of course. It's the others. The others!!!!
You can identify the others by the following traits:
You can identify the others by the following traits:
- They move your stuff in the dressing room!
- They stand in front of you when your child is on stage!
- They give you dirty looks!
- They save entire rows of seats for hours and no one ever shows up!
- They're usually wearing a jacket or t-shirt that says "Special Princess' Mom" (don't worry if YOU wear this...YOU aren't crazy. It's THEM!!!)
- They run their dancer's solo at least once more even after the teacher has done it.
- They've been known to scream at teachers, other parents, and even strangers!
Unfortunately, there isn't a darned thing we can do about these people. Your only options are to assimilate (Please only choose this option as a last resort! Think of the puppies!), develop a sense of humor about them, or to pull your child out of dance and let them start a career in competitive Backgammon.
We can stick together in other ways though. One of the things I've discovered through Twitter is a site called Dance Competition Hub This is a competition and convention rating site. (They have a fantastic vendor rating section as well!) And it has a very thorough list of competitions, conventions, and vendors. Teachers, parents, studio owners, and dancers are all invited to review the competitions with which they have experience. They've only been operating since April 2013 (according to the news section on the site) and I have heard myself that the competition directors have taken notice. I highly recommend that you take the time to check them out - because one way that we can stick together as crazy (some of us more than others) dance parents (and dancers - hi!!) is to keep the people we give our hard earned money to honest and fun for the kids.
P.S. They're on Facebook too! Go show some love! Dance Competition Hub
P.S. They're on Facebook too! Go show some love! Dance Competition Hub
Wednesday, September 4, 2013
A Year in the Life of a Competition Dance Mom
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Labels: Competition, DanceMom, judges, recital, rules, Studio
Labels: Competition, DanceMom, judges, recital, rules, Studio

September -
So excited to start a new season. Oh, sure, you can do two solos, two duets, and three extra numbers on top of the required ones. It won’t add too much to the tuition bill.
October -
I’m sooo bored. I want to go to a convention or a competition. Is it March yet?
November -
For the love of God ...is it March yet?
December -
Does all last minute Christmas shopping on allaboutdance.com
January -
Wait, how many numbers did I let you do? I forgot about the competition fees. *checks black market for going price for kidneys*
February -
Costumes are in!!! wait, how many costumes did I order? That’s a downpayment on a car!
March -
Packs for the first competition and books hotel two weeks in advance - decorates car, lays out which studio shirts to wear each day of the event
April -
Takes duffel from March competition out of car to repack for April competition
May -
Packs 15 minutes before we leave, books hotel on way to competition, may or may not have packed a studio shirt. It may still be in the luggage from April.
Recital - stays in the dressing room, hovering in fear of the crazy rec/class moms
June -
Time for nationals. Kind of relieved that your dance studio owner doubles as your travel agent because at this point in the year, there’s no way you could coordinate a family vacation without falling apart.
July -
ahhh... time off.
Except the workshops.
And Summer Intensives.
And parades.
Late July - unpacks from nationals
August -
Choreography. registration. new year’s t-shirts. Oh, she outgrew her warm ups. Time for more of those.
Is it March yet?
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Monday, September 2, 2013
Competition Pet Peeves
1. And the title winner is...
wait, they didn’t place 1st? Oh, that’s a separate competition? And it’s an extra $75? For??? I can buy a tiara at the Dollar Tree.
2. cheering for backstage help when they sweep the stage...no one cheers for me when I sweep at home... (this one compliments of @tbhdanceteacher)
3. Props. Big or small...that never get used. I’m sure it was worth the u-haul rental for that prop that you NEVER TOUCH
4. Parents who constantly ask me what number they are on or who’s next or which one of our studio’s numbers is up next. Buy your own program, bitch.
5. Parents who should out their kids names while they are dancing. It may just be me, but I”d be all “what?” and then forget what I was doing. Seems to me it would be distracting.
6. Parents who will cheer for EVERY dancer...except one. Because being a dance parent means you regress to middle school.
7. Dancers who run around half naked when they are not on stage. A costume is just that. A costume. For performance. When you’re done, but your overpriced warm up on.
8. Acro in any dance that isn’t acro. (And I love acro, but quit putting flips into your lyrical dance. It looks stupid.)
9. Taking 15 seconds to evacuate the stage. If you’re done, move along. I’m ready for a Starbucks break and you’re holding things up.
10. Minis with inappropriate movements and costumes.
11. Seniors with inappropriate movements and costumes.
12. Productions that seem to last for 45 minutes.
13. Productions with more than 30 dancers. I don’t know how the judges can even see everyone.
14. Unorganized competitions that run everything out of order and late.
15. Competitions that have levels and rules for those levels, but do nothing about it when the cheating or “leveling down” is blatant and obvious.
16. When dancers (and parents) don’t clap for other teams or for EVERY dancer on the studio team.
17. When solos are first and the kid who didn’t “win” spends the rest of the week grumpy and unfocused.
18. Competitions that start at 7:30 am and don’t end until midnight. And then you have to be back at 7:30 the next day.
19. When the emcee can’t pronounce the name of a studio, even after being corrected.
20. When the only concessions are stale pretzels and warm bottles of soda.
Sure, I could go on and on and if it was competition season, this list would probably be about 50 long. Feel free to add your own in the comments.
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